Dear Sackgirl and Botboy,
Do you know what I like about Xena, Warrior Princess?
She kicks arse.
She can handle herself, protect herself, stand up for herself. She knows her own mind, does her own thing, is independent.
She is strong.
Xena is also feminine. Happy with her body and charms. She’s healthy and athletic and not super skinny.
She’s funny and caring and tough and loving.
She knows it’s not a weakness to be vulnerable.
The main thing I like abut Xena is that she makes a great role model.
X is for Zena. V is for Vulnerable.
Another great role model is Buffy. I’ve mentioned this before. Plus, her vampires were proper vampires. None of this sparkly crap.
I did struggle to think of some role models for boys.
A lot of people suggested sports personalities. I’m not sure why. So, he can kick a ball, or throw one a long way, or drive a car really fast. Yay. He’s great at sport, but how does that make him a great person?
Lizzi from Considerings suggested Artemis Fowl, so I read all the books. A teenage criminal mastermind who learns from his mistakes, takes responsibility for his actions and becomes a hero who risks everything to save and help people weaker than him.
Yep – a pretty good role model. Plus, I enjoyed all the books.
The other thing about Xena and Artemis Fowl is that they earn our respect. They treat other people the way they would like to be treated. Think about this! It’s a simple and yet effective concept that you should really take to heart, although it will probably take you a few rough and hard earned lessons along the way.
Remember, a friend who does not respect you is not a friend.
R is for Respect
There is one person I really want you to love in your life. It’s not me – although that’s something I cherish every day.
Yep – I want you to love you. To know that you are worth so very much. Your impact on the lives of people around you is immense. Don’t ever doubt that.
But, that doesn’t mean you don’t still have to work to earn respect, self-worth and everything in life you want. Life does not owe you a living.
Work hard to get a great job. One that you love – that’s important – but also, that pays you well. Whoever said money is not important probably didn’t have children who were starving.
At the same time, money does not solve every problem. Learn the value of the things around you.
While you are working to live, remember to have a life as well.
W is for Worth. V is for Value.
On the subject of learning – Question everything around you and never lose the desire to learn. Look inside and learn about yourself too. Learning can be fun – it’s not all about facts and figures and whatever they are trying to drum into your head right now at school. Educate yourself through experiences.
Try. Whether you succeed or not, you can try. Good things do NOT come to those who wait.
T is for Try. Q is for Question.
Remember Quality is more important than Quantity, especially when we are talking about wine.
You know, it took me a while to learn that being vulnerable is not a weakness. I became vulnerable the moment you both came along. That made me strong. Because for you, I will fight ogres, jump mountains and even, if absolutely necessary, eat marmite.
S is for Strong.
Oh – and one other thing about Xena.
You know what she has. Great fitting bras!
Underwear is important!
U is for Underwear.
P.S. Nope, I didn’t forget.
S is for Sunscreen. Don’t forget to wear sunscreen, kids. Beauty is not sunburn or skin cancer. Beauty is not wrinkly, leathery skin. Beauty is healthy, glowing, natural skin and bodies and living a long life for your children.
P.P.S. OK – so I have whammed together a few posts there to stay in with the A-Z Challenge. And perhaps there’s another lesson there. Think about the rules – and if they don’t make sense don’t follow them blindly!
(Thanks to Cath, Sharon, Nicki, Jill and Steph for suggestions – with all this great advice I just know that there are a lot of wonderful kids being brought up out there. It kinda gives you hope for the future, doesn’t it?)
In the words of Mary Schmich, written as a potential commencement speech and published in the Chicago Tribune in 1997, later sung by Baz Luhrmann in the song known as Everybody’s free to wear sunscreen.
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked