Ten years ago Mr G and I went on holiday to Cuba. At the time I was working for an internet bank and had just been promoted to a people management position which had taught me, in the few months I’d been at it, a couple of vital things.
1. I don’t like managing people.
2. People do not like being managed by me.
3. I loved the industry I was in.
4. No job was, however, worth this much stress.
While I was sat on my underwater chair at the bar in the pool in the 30+ degree heat, I recall clearly making the decision that I had to let my boss know I could not carry on.
When I got home I gave her my decision, that she needed to either find me something else or I’d have to quit. It appeared they had also reached the same conclusion while I was away (I think my team were about to revolt) and had already planned a change about that put me back where I worked best, on the technical side.
Part of the reason I remember that so clearly is because it’s the first time I actively made an adult decision about my working life, rather than just letting it happen to me.
Here I am, ten years later and I’ve just got back from my second holiday in Cuba. As I mentioned before, the last few months have been particularly stressful. While I was there this time, I had another moment of clarity – that it’s time to cut out of my life some of the things that make me stressed and to identify my priorities, which I’ll go into another time.
It seems that going to Cuba is quite therapeutic for me – maybe I should go more often!
Another part of my new found stress relief process is to work out what’s good in my life. So, I’m joining in with this weeks blog hop run by the lovely Lizzie over at Considerings called Ten Things of Thankful. The idea is to identify ten things that make up the good part of my life – so here’s my first list.
1. Dolphins. Or rather, the chance I had to spend 30 minutes in the water with these magnificent, talented and funny creatures. Seeing the joy on Sackgirl’s face as they towed her around the water. It was a privilege.
2. One of the things we do when we visit another country is to learn about the way of life for the locals. We talk to the waiter and find out about their family. We ask the maid who is looking after her children while she spends 12 hours a day cleaning our rooms. We make sure our children understand how different things are.
So, I am thankful for our lives, that we have a house to come home to at night and beds for our children. I am thankful that we have food to give them and money to treat them occasionally.
3. Mr G, of course. I am grateful for my husband, who works so hard to make sure we have these things.
4. The joy of reading. And all the authors who work so hard to share their worlds and thoughts.
5. Friends who cheer me up when I’m down, who join me in celebrating the good times and eating cake with me through the bad times.
6. Arrow. Grey’s Anatomy. The Walking Dead. All the other fantastic shows I spend time indulging in when I could be working all night!
7. Water beds. It’s comfy, it’s heated, it’s indulgent. I love my bed!
8. Pets. My demented dog and ancient, loyal cat. They bring comfort, love and a great deal of work into our lives. Thanks to my cat, my feet are never cold at night – even with the heated bed! Thanks to my dog I get exercise – plenty of it. When I’m walking her, when I’m chasing her to get my brushes back, when I’m searching for her after she has run off . . .
9. Rum. What more is there to say!
10. Cheesecake. Because everything in life gets better with cheesecake.
I don’t know if I will join in the blog hop every week – but I’ll try!