There is a point we reach where we wonder, should I just stop trying?
I expect there is some sort of thought-provoking, inspirational quote from a world leading athlete which would say something along the lines of ‘you have to push past this point and keep going to succeed’.
I am sure that is true. In competition, in business, at work – in some sort of activity or task, I guess the millionaires, world changers, politicians and scientists are those who don’t give up, who forge ahead despite all obstacles in their way.
But when it comes to people and relationships there is a point when I wonder, is it ok to just stop trying?
Consider a relationship with friends. If the friendship is one-sided – with one making all the effort to arrange meet ups, nights out and coffee mornings and the other never making that first move – at what point should they stop trying?
What about a relationship with a partner? Shared history, love and companionship can be hard to give up. But when the effort is one-sided, at what point should you end it?
Harder still is the decision to stop trying with family.
Calling time does not mean necessarily to give up. It doesn’t have to be a negative to realise that being constantly rebuffed can be harmful to your self-esteem, depressing, demotivating and tiring.
Taking a stance, saying ‘no more’ can be a sign of strength. Choosing to put yourself first is not always selfish, sometimes it is self-preserving.
The hardest part seems to be recognising when that time has come.